Sixty Years with an Ostomy
By Ed Pfueller, UOAA Communications Manager
Beverly Dabliz is ready to celebrate a monumental 60th anniversary but even her closest friends do not all know what it is for. Recently she decided it was finally time to share the news. “Just last week I told a close friend I’ve known for 66 years – I’m the godmother of her twins, but even they did not know I have an ostomy. It was just not something people talked about,” Dabliz says. She adds “People are surprised to learn the news, but it does not matter to them one bit.”
Dabliz had ileostomy surgery in 1962 at Ferguson Hospital in Grand Rapids, Michigan. Ferguson was one of the first clinics in the world to perform such surgeries. By the time she turned twenty she was suffering from ulcerative colitis and by twenty-four ran out of treatment options. “After sixty years I have never regretted it, it has allowed me to live a great life,” Dabliz says.
Almost no one with the exception of her doctor understood the procedure and how to care for it. She knew she was on her own on how to carry on and reach her full potential.
Even if you have a great support network Dabliz recommends, “You have to own it and take care of it.” Ostomy supplies of that time bear little resemblance to the lightweight, contoured appliances of today. “I wore a heavy two-piece rubber appliance held on with an ostomy glue,” she recalls. It was not until the 70s that pouching systems began to evolve into something similar to the one and two-piece systems commonly used today.
“It was just not something people talked about,”
Over the years Dabliz has helped other ostomates in need through the Detroit Metro Ostomy Support Group. While doing hospital visits she would always appear in fitted clothes and enjoyed how grateful the patients were to hear from someone else living with an ostomy. She is happy about the recent return of in-person support group meetings. At meetings, Dabliz is sometimes surprised by some of the concerns new ostomates have regarding things like food, “I just tell them to be sure you chew your food very well, in the beginning, I tried it all without being scared but I’m still often the last one eating. I chew my food so well I’ve worn down teeth.”
Beverly Dabliz, right, works during a mission trip to Costa Rica with her Michigan church group.
Dabliz worked in the accounting department of a computer company in Detroit and Plymouth, Michigan for 45 years before retiring. Her boss was aware of her ostomy and supportive. “I never missed a day of work because of the ostomy,” she says.
Six years ago Dabliz had a fight with kidney cancer and three years ago a shoulder replacement surgery. But she has otherwise been fortunate to live a healthy life since the ostomy surgery six decades ago. She still makes it a point to get out of the house almost every day. “I have always been very active and really have not had any ostomy issues,” Dabliz says. In her eighties now, she still enjoys golfing and was in a bowling league for many years.
Beverly Dabliz working as a volunteer at the Eagle River Methodist Camp in Juneau, Alaska.
Dabliz can also still be found tending to her yard and is reluctant to give up shoveling the Michigan snow – though neighbors have started beating her to it. With the exception of some subtle changes, her ostomy regiment remains routine. She consistently uses the same products.
Dabliz is an active member of her church and has gone on many mission trips over the years in countries such as Jamaica and Costa Rica. “I’ve had to use outhouses in Alaska and done mission work after Hurricane Katrina,” Dabliz says. Even in these tight living quarters, nobody knew she had an ostomy.
An ostomy has never gotten in the way of her passion for traveling and cruising the world with her older sister. The pair have even circumnavigated Australia and New Zealand. Her advice; “I take extra supplies and always bring some on carry-on and have never had any trouble flying. Just do it. Go swimming, do whatever you want to do,” she says.
In celebration of her 60th Stomaversary and 85th Birthday, Dabliz is hoping to take a Holland America cruise around Iceland with her sister. Her minister and family have known of her ostomy but she hopes to tell more friends about what this landmark occasion means to her. Dabliz is confident they will take the news in stride as they help her celebrate a life that could have been cut way too short if not for that long ago ostomy surgery.
I too am a 60th anniversary (stomaversary). I had mine when I was 2 years old. I agree most people don’t know I even have one. I have just lived with it all my life and never even think about it. Glad to see I am not alone. I have a Urostomy by the way. For the younger people or anyone just getting an ostomy you can live a normal life.
I have had my colostomy for 70 years. Mine was caused by a birth defect. I have a temporary permanent colostomy. I was teased all the way through school. I am now on the Board of Directors of the Ostomy Association of Metro Denver. I am Vice President. I want to start a support group for children and their parents. Contact me if you want to. I would love to talk to anyone who is having problems or just want to talk. Thank you
Hello,
My name is Deepa Chandhrasekhar, and I am a fourth-year medical student at Midwestern University in Arizona. I am working with Dr. Michael McGee, a colorectal surgeon at Northwestern University to write a piece on patient perspective on life with a stoma. We are looking for any individuals who are willing to submit a personal letter on their lived experience with an ostomy for publication in the Seminars in Colon and Rectal Surgery. The hope is to bring more awareness to patients who are considering a stoma and dispel rumors and myths about living with one.
If you are willing to contribute, that would be great! Feel free to email me at dsekhar108@gmail.com for more information.
Thanks so much for your consideration!
Sincerely,
Deepa Chandhrasekhar, MS-IV
dsekhar108@gmail.com
Is this offer still available?
I would like to hear from Beverly Dabliz. I am a 50 yr. ileostomate. Would love to chat.
Sandy
I have had my Ostomy, since I was 19 years old and just celebrated 52th anniversary
I contacted colitis when I was 13 and suffered with it all through High School, which had then gone to ulcerative colitis, and my only choice to live was to have my ileostomy
Not many people know that I have one other then my family, but as time goes on I’m starting to talk more about it
Feel free to contact me at rastasiak65@gmail.com
I had my ileostomy in 1974 when I was 6.
That’s 50 years next year?
Mine was due to ulcerative colitis at the age of 6. My brother had his a year later when he was 5.
We might be some of the youngest people with long ileostomy, I don know, but great to learn about others with long stomas.
My mom (90 years old) from South Africa must be one of the oldest people with a permanent stoma bag. It is 56,5 years now that she is wearing it and still handles it on her own
Dear Susan,
Thank you for offering this about your mom.
So great to know she is well and able to manage herself.
I had to have an emergency surgery end ileostomy last year at 58 that saved my life.
I’m so grateful for all the comments left today and the story of Beverly Dabliz.
You all have really eased my thoughts of worrying about age.
Very grateful.
Ashley